POST 6 of 8 / LESSON 4: PEOPLE MATTER - Surround yourself with those that see your value
I don’t care who’s life we analyze and how successful or unsuccessful they appear now. Every human has moments where they fall or fail. In those moments, when doubt is so readily available and your self confidence is vulnerable, the people that you have put in your life will be the ones that help you up or keep you down. I remember when I heard of the plan to have me removed. It was completely by surprise. It was via email and it was late in the evening at home. When I read the email, I called my wife over to read it. With shock and confusion in every cell of my body, I anticipated the worst reaction. Instead she did something surprising, she sat on my lap. Held my face and said to me “don’t even worry about this, you haven’t even reached your potential in business yet, you’ll be fine and we will be fine!” Shock suddenly turned into relief and confidence. I had an ally, someone who believed in me and now I had the start of how to tackle this challenge. I say “the people you have PUT in your life” for a reason. You do have the power to decide who are the people that surround you. Choose wisely.
33319 December, 2018
POST 5 of 8 / LESSON 3: DO THE WORK - Get out and do it and leave the excuses at the door
It’s a well known principle of life that no one achieves anything by not doing anything. No one is going to do that hard work for you. It’s up to you to put what needs to happen into action, which often comes with huge sacrifice but can return exponential reward. When I faced climbing the mountain that was in front of me, I could have given up, I could have just cried about what was happening (which I did lots of), I could have made up every excuse in the book as to why this was happening and could have defaulted to the blame game. None of that was going to help me achieve. So I set to work. I put every bit of waking energy into working my way forward and taking ownership of what had happened and what needed to be done. I do want to add that in some circumstances, doing nothing is doing something and wisdom is knowing when that is appropriate. If you want to climb a mountain, you better start climbing.
22519 December, 2018
POST 4 of 8 / LESSON 2: BELIEVE IN YOURSELF - You are stronger then you know now
For me this was a hugely liberating lesson to learn. Through this process of fighting to keep my company, I came out on the other end with a new and revived self confidence and self belief. I learnt a valuable lesson that often we don’t know how strong we really are until we have been tested. When I first found out about the move against me I felt completely lost and unsure of how the future would look. It almost broke me and I stood facing this uphill mountain in front of me not sure that I would be able to climb it. But when you believe in a cause strong enough and you are willing to go the distance you will be surprised once you reach the pinnacle. You look back at what you’ve managed to endure and achieve and you’ll see how much you’ve grown. Strength is something that is built through challenge. Hold fast, you are stronger then you know now.
27419 December, 2018
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Today I have 2 stories to share with you. They taught me things.
1) A young boy was running up the road opposite me whilst walking home today. He was smiling and waving at a parental figure. Then they embraced in a long meaningful hug. It made me smile.
2) My sister nearly gave up on her goals today. She has always wanted to be a social worker. But today she nearly gave up because it means more education and she said she doesn't know if she will be able to complete it.
She also mentioned wanting to be there for her daughter. I understood, but I also said that she will regret not, at least going for it and that it will be better for her and her daughter in the long term. She is now going to go for it.
Sometimes you need to put aside time to appreciate your family, friends and those that help you progress. You also need to appreciate those around you, it's easy not to. I will always be there to help my sister and brothers and try and help them balance when they're wobbling.
How to you put aside time to appreciate your family and those that push you on your journey?
Today I think I found a gap in the automobile industry market!
With cars they are awesome, we get from A to B quick. BUT the trunk/boot is not ideal. We have to dodge the door when opening, which can involve walking in a road which is a health and safety risk. And sometimes we have to get in the car and drive forward slightly so we can access it.
Doors on cars used to open outwards. Now they open, well, in any direction.
So why don't we take the door initiative to the trunk/boot and do the same? People have been creative by putting the boot/trunk at the front of the car but why not take the door off a hinge and slide it up instead, similar to @lamborghini doors?
What are your thoughts? Are people in that industry missing a trick?
This is just one of many crazy thoughts I have in a day. 😁
WE ARE MOVING!!! My business is moving forward finally and there's so much exciting things to come.
Yesterday I was on a call with @lucycdot looking at her Shine On method and helping me gain clarity in my life. The call lasted 3 hours.
After those 3 hours I had learnt so much about myself and the things I need to learn such as sales funnels, lead generation etc.
I also learnt more about legally setting up a business in the UK but I won't bore you with those details 😂. It's been a long time coming but the next few weeks are going to entail a lot of learning, trial and error, trying new things and working hard.
#MarchMeetTheMaker day 18: Mistake or Lesson
I wanna take today's prompt as “experience”. There is nothing wrong with making mistakes in your life or in your business.
For me, if it's business it's more like trial and error and important to take lessons from it. I've tried many different fabric types, interlinings (in various weights), tools, metal accessories etc to get the right feel with right product, actually the whole thing is still a work in progress especially if you decide adding something new to your collection.
It took me more than one year to find the right interlining for this wristlet purse. Because the type and weight of interlining I use with each fabric type is different, so when ever I add a new fabric I should make some trials with various types of interlinings to get the right touch and structure.
Pattern trials and samples are a bigger subject that I need to talk about seperately. 🥴
A crucial thing happened in my life over the past 24 hours.
I learned that I hesitated starting a company 9 months ago. Not only because of lack of knowledge but because I was scared. Scared things would go wrong but even more scared if things would go right.
I realised last night in bed. Then I woke up this morning and from a place of confidence I said to myself, we're doing this. By were I mean my physical and mental self.
Don't get me wrong I'm nervous, scared, excited and more but I'm strong.
I mention this and more about my journey, the past 9 months, the future and the present in my podcast.
If you want to listen and hear about this in more depth you can find the link in my profile @garethgrafferty.
Thanks for supporting me this far on my journey and I'm sure you will enjoy the next few weeks of my content as exciting things are coming.
How do you push yourself out of you comfort zone everyday?
People often talk about pushing themselves out of this zone everyday. I am probably on about once a week.
Something I am learning to do and want to do more of.
I recently did this by vlogging outside (link to my recent blog in my bio @garethgrafferty). So how do you push yourself out of your comfort zone every single day?
MINDSET! The thing that determines how your day is going to go.
Sometimes when we are in a not so good mindset, we still work hard but we think about the things we didn't do in a day as opposed to all the things we have done.
An example: Today I wanted to work on my website and edit a vlog for tomorrow.
I fully edited the vlog but spent time scrolling though social media meaning I didn't really work on my website.
Instead I think about the 4 hours I spent editing which saves me doing it tomorrow, instead of falling deeper into a mindset I don't want.
How do you cope when your mind tries to go the wrong way?
Day 14 of #meetthemaker and today’s challenge is ‘How I learnt’ well to be honest I’m still learning and probably always will be as new machines come out and clients are always wanting their new idea creating. I did study Graphic Design at uni and through work experience learnt I wanted to design and work for myself and definitely wanted weddings to be a part of the job description! No ones perfect and everyone learns something new most days and I’ll continue to push myself and achieve whatever I can ❤️💁🏻♀️
It may be difficult but things don't always have to be perfect.
I have wasted a lot of time recently scrolling through images looking for the perfect image for my website and the perfect colours.
I knew that it being good enough was what I should strive for but I just wanted it to be perfect. And then today the ball dropped.
Using the pomodoro productivity method I completed a page and a half of my website in about 2.5 hours today.
It's coming along so nicely, I just needed to settle with good enough.
How have you settled with this in your life? Let's chat about your situation? Maybe you're stuck in a situation like this right now?
Thanks for watching and I hope you've had/are having an awesome day. 😁
Today I have learnt to be honest with myself about organisation.
Sometimes we think we have it all planned in our heads, but we don't. We need to grab some paper and write a checklist. A word document won't cut it.
This came after talking on a zoom call with @lucycdot yesterday about her business and mine and then chatting today about legal things around business.
It gets so complexed also because it's my first time starting a business. I think it's time for me to make a business foundation checklist so that I cover everything to "formally" set up my company.
This is day 1 starting a new type of content. The #whatilearnt content. Sharing the 1 thing I learn during that day. It's great for you guys to see the journey but also for anyone wanting to start a similar journey.
It’s been a bit of a wrestling match, but I’ve managed to create a news post on my website. It’s a report of how the Bath Art Fair went for me and touches on some of the things I have learnt about taking part in art and craft fairs. http://lynnbailey.co.uk/print/bath-art-fair-report #more -2141
(Wrestling match because I’m not very good at Wordpress...) #bathartfair#artfairstand#artfairs#whatilearnt#whatido#wordpress
5129 March, 2019
"Revival comes to those who are standing for God" - Ev Adrian
Share your comments about what you learnt from this past Sunday's sermon and how it has impacted your week thus far.
74. Na konci téhle srandy ti nikdo neřekne: “Na, tady ti dávám ještě čas, co jsi strávil na instagramu a běž si ho užít.” To by pak bylo vlastně fajn tady trávit čas. Čím víc času tady, tím víc času mi vrátí pak zpátky. Bohužel tohle se řídí nepřímou úměrou.
Denně jsem tady trávila minimálně hodinu. To je 7hodin týdně, 365 hodin v roce. V přepočtu na dny to je zhruba 15 dní strávených JEN na instagramu. To jsou dva týdny. Vzhledem k tomu že účet mám nějakých 5 let, jsou to necelé 3 měsíce. Jako fakt? Vážně mi to stojí za to? Porovnávat si život s ostatníma, čekat na komentáře o tom, jak moc mi to sluší a sbírat sledující, 90% z nich mně neznámých, jako pokemony? Asi ne.
Možná někdy jindy, až budu mít co říct. #whatilearnt#thinkdifferent#change
9201 March, 2019
So I found that the Brazilian #cachaca from the sugarcane is insanely strong when tasted neat with more than 40% alcohol , not too far away from the vodka .
Ollie very urgent asked me for a cup/bowl with cover and my giving key necklace today. After much confusion, I complied. He went outside to pluck a few flowers then put them into the bowl along with my giving key and told me it's to give my necklace "flower smell". Catch is I gotta wear it with the bowl and hold the bowl shut. Good deal, if you ask me.
I'm actually so amazed and inspired. I was lucky enough to receive a giving key with the word "CREATE", a word that I've held close to my heart. This holiday, Ollie has created so many things - drawings, colouring, Lego stuff, fruit platter arrangement, his own lunch menus 🙄 - I've been inspired all over. Kids, they do and create just because they have an idea and they enjoy it. Enjoyment - something I think adults forget as we think about non-fun stuff like "better things to do with my time", "does it make money", "will anyone even like it" and "I'm no good at this, why bother". Why can't we just enjoy? To quote Ollie, "Last time I can't draw Spiderman's eyes but now I can!" #bbolivertan#creations#becreative#neverstoplearning#inspired#holidays#whatilearnt
So I was at uni a couple of days ago, & an average guy, about 19 years old, walked through the swinging library doors before me. He was MUCH further ahead, but he stopped with the door held open for me, waiting with a warm, familiar smile, as I crossed the length of the hall way.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
When I FINALLY reached the door, we were beaming at each other, as good friends would having shared a private joke. I took the door thanking him, & he walked away to reunite with his friends that he’d abandoned in order to pay me a chivalrous act. I haven’t forgotten him since. It was a small act, with little cost in the giving, but it restored my hope in the selfless kindness of human beings. How wonderful that a stranger could bring me so much joy without strings attached to it. How strange that I felt more affinity with this person through a 15 second exchange than I’ve felt with people I’ve been acquainted with for months or years. How thankful I am that he exists, & for spontaneous eruptions of connectedness. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Lesson; Don’t be an arsehole. Be like the anonymous library guy. ❤️👍🏼 It’s cool to be kind.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
.......نمو أطفالنا واختلافهم.......
كيف كل طفل وكل واحد بخلق فيه صفات مختلفه، ومهاراته وأوقات تطورها كمان مختلفه!
رعد وجنين مثلا كتير غير عن بعض، وميولهم مختلفه تماما. يعني جنين بتحب تغامر وتركب ألعاب متل اللي بالبوست👆
بس رعد أخده الموضوع فترة أطول حتى رضي يلعب، ولهلأ ممكن ما يلعب!
واجبنا نساعدهم ليتخطوا مخاوفهم، ونعطيهم وقتهم، ونتقبلهم متل ما همه، نعطيهم فرصة يكونوا أنفسهم..مش متل ما نحنا بدنا اياهم يكونو!
1612824 January, 2019
To be honest I was nervous about having my own kids in my classes at @tinkertoowoomba it's that sense of letting go of some control. I knew better in my heart and my head that Miss V is a rockstar who lights up a space with her emotional willingness to contribute but still those thoughts of how can I be mum and teacher in the same space with a full class.
I should have slapped past Alex 😂 V had this and so did I. Plus now I have the added bonus of watching and helping her grow her creative side. Seeing her take risks and grow in confidence with her creativity something that many of us know all too well the damaging effects of negativity can have in this vulnerable space.
Were you one who stopped trying or started to believe you just didn't have the talent because of one person's comment?
It really is a turning point in our creative self the moment that we pour our heart and soul into something to have it crushed with disapproval. .
25113 hours ago
73. Nejde mi psát. Dříve jsem psala pořád. V hlavě mi běžely tisíce nápadu. Při pohledu na hvězdy mě vždycky něco napadlo. Až mě děsilo, na co jsem kolikrát přišla. Dneska při pohledu na hvězdy vidím tebe. Jak tam spolu stojíme, pozorujíce stovky padajících úlomků prolétávat skrze atmosféru. Jak jsi nepoznal Velký vůz a byl jsi moc líný na to se zvedat, abych ti mohla ukázat Cassiopeiu.
Na óji Velkého vozu, hned vedle té prostřední hvězdy, poblikává další malá. Jeden kamarád mi kdysi řekl, že podle ní indiáni zjišťovali, zda člověk dobře vidí.
Nikdy jsem ji moc neviděla. Jak jsi odešel, dívala jsem se nahoru pořád. A najednou jsem ji viděla docela ostře. Svítila jako nikdy předtím. Tehdy mi došlo, že už jsi doma. #whatilearnt#hope#believe#lovewillneverdie#zakonzachovanienergie#lookatthestars#lookhowtheyshineforyou#change
I'm Officially 18!! First of all I'd love to thank God for keeping yet this far i mean 18 years! Its a pretty long time i'd also love to thank my birthgivers mommy and daddy for always being there for me showing how to go about life and simply bringing on earth to meet such amazing people
Since im officially 18I'd love to reflect on 18 things I've learnt
1.God always has your back
2.always motivate and push yourself, hard work always pays off
3.Not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever
4.Nobody will care for you, if you dont
5.Arrogance wont take you anywhere
6.when somebody wants to live let them go
7.Dont believe apologies only patterns
8.Dreams denied by your own decisions aren't dreams denied by God
9.Dont underestimate the power of your words
10. Love those who love you back
11. If you're broken you dont have to stay that way
12. Dont focus on what you lost but what you will do about it
13.Be kind to everyone
14. You're smarter and tougher than you think
15. People will always have something to say about you irrespective of what you do
16. Cry if you have to, it heals
17. Speak it into existence
18. Smile! Smile! Smile!
As 2018 ends, here are a few things that I would like to say to myself from 2018.❤️ Don’t be afraid to say how you feel. Don’t feel sorry for keeping your happiness first. Don’t automatically point a finger at yourself the second someone changes their behavior towards you. If you’re making an effort for someone but you see them constantly ignoring you, take a step back, for yourself. Don’t be afraid of walking out of a toxic relationship. If something is having a toxic effect on your life, on your emotions, it’s your right to leave it. You don’t have to apologize or blame yourself. Don’t let anyone take you for granted. Don’t trust every word that comes out of someone’s mouth. People don’t deserve this much of your trust. You don’t have to justify yourself in front of others. Not everyone is gonna agree with you and that’s totally fine. Make someone happy but remember that you’re someone too. Don’t lose yourself in helping others. Only solve the part of the puzzle that’s given to you. Don’t worry about the whole puzzle, it’s not yours to solve. Let them solve it, if they need you, they’ll come for you. Don’t be afraid of the judgements. They’re always gonna be there no matter how good you get. Believe in yourself and do what seems right to you. As long as you’re satisfied, people won’t matter. Understand that not everything you want is right for you. Allah always has a better plan. And last but the most important thing, no one can love you more than your parents. They’ll always want the best for you. Sometimes you may think otherwise but sit with them, talk with them, you’ll know how much they love you. And yes, that’s it! Thanks for believing in yourself. Thanks for trying. Thanks for being brave and knowing that you can do it. I love you.❤️ #lettertomyself
Just like all other years, #2018 has been a mix of lows and highs, happy and sad moments, gains and alot of losses! One thing I learnt this year is how important it is to talk to people you love and who love you back. How important it is to stay in touch and take out time to sit with them, be it in person, over skype or just a phone call, just sit with them. Listen to them and tell them you appreciate them. How important it is to tell people what you feel while they are around because you never know if you will ever see them again!
Here is to another year of love, life, struggles, tears, smiles, ups and downs and whatever is written for us! Happy new year to everyone who reads this, sending a lot of happy vibes your way!
5 things I learnt in 2018 •
1 Plans do not work out in most of the cases. And that is a good thing.
2 The way you speak to people, the way you act influences their lives. Better be aware of that. You have more power than you think. And that’s a big responsibility.
3 Travel pictures on Instagram do not reflect any reality. Mine included. It‘s harder than it seems on Social Media. But that’s where you are growing. Without showing people.
4 Bad experiences do not have to influence your life in a bad way. Actually it’s the other way round. You always grow. And that’s the most amazing thing ever.
5 I searched the world to find my heart is God’s.
I am grateful. For every single experience. For every single country. For every single encounter. And for everybody waiting for me at home while I am finding myself.
257231 December, 2018
Lesson to take into 2019... Let that shit go!
Things I have learnt in 2018:
• You can do anything if you believe in yourself • Most of the time it's not you, it's them 👀 • It's ok to make mistakes, but learn from them • I'm far from perfect but I'm trying my best and that's enough💪
• Change your behaviour and set boundaries and you can transform a relationship without the other person even realising how 💗
• It's not what you say, it's the way that you say it
• I love naps 😴
• Take a deep breath and speak up for yourself 😶 • I love kettle bells and squats • I'll always be too busy procrastinating to be perfect 🤷🏼♀️
• My girlfriends are the best and I have the most wonderful friends you could dream of 👭
• Men are incredible creatures and I delight in their company and want more guy time in my life 👫😉
• Travel feeds my soul and I've missed it✈️
• You are never too old to start something new
• Never underestimate yourself ❤ • I made my own dreams come true and wrote a book which has been read by thousands of people. Don't wait for permission from others - dare to dream! 💜
• If it won't matter in 5 years, don't worry about it for more than 5 minutes - let that shit go! 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 #Repost image @florencegiven
38331 December, 2018
LONG POST ALERT. So it’s that time of the year to reflect on the year gone and the one about to arrive.
At the beginning of last year I wrote a post on using as little plastic as possible this year in hope that my daughter will be able to enjoy the beautiful corals I’ve been able to see snorkelling and enjoy the beach full of wildlife not plastic.
I’m really proud to see that I’ve actually kept my promise. Creating Set Me Free has allowed me to share my experience and passion to live a what you’d call a ‘zero waste life’. I would not have imagined myself have a spork in my wallet, carry around a reusable cup, reed straw, cloth bags, cloth wipes and a filter water bottle. Who would have thought I’d be dressing my baby in cloth nappies (not me!) and use reusable breast and sanitary pads. And be excited about having a compost bin in our garden. Someone who used to love a great Harvey Nichols ‘gift with purchase’ which included numerous plastic jar beauty products, is now washing her hair with solid shampoo cubes and rinsing it with apple cider vinegar!! Yep.
I’m amazed at what one can do when you put your mind to it and I’m very grateful to my family and friends who have gone along with it and made little changes in their lives because they wanted to. Also thank you to all of you for following my account. Being on Instagram has been a source of inspiration and in fact I love the sense of community, particularly on cloth nappies!
So, where next.
We organised a dinner couple of nights ago and whilst we were enjoying one of our star recipes, vanilla lamb, I found myself discuss veganism with the person next to me, someone who hunts in fact. The older generations are clearly intrigued and inspired by younger ones eating less and less meat. And I’d categorize myself somewhere in between I suppose.
The Anthropology Museum is a MUST when in Mexico City. I realised this: it’s all a cycle of life. And things eventually go around in a circle to be first created in the mind, then invented into reality, and later destroyed ..and then to be recreated some other way. We must however aim to better the recreation for the next generation. 👀
2018, you've been good. A lot of blessings and a few tiny-weebit curses-turned-blessings.
Yet another year comes to an end (whaaa, it was January yesterday 🙄). Anyway, so a list of free gyaan coming your way (mostly a compilation of what I've learnt this year). Enjoy! . . -it is okay to sleep. A lot. Sleep your worries away. (who knew sleep was this important 😳)
-to have love, care, warmth. Even to those who don't appreciate it. Especially to those who don't.
-no matter how much it hurts, let go.
-as ironic as I may sound, hold still. You've come so far, it's gonna be worth the wait.
-people who hurt you, are hurting too. Forgive them, but don't be too naive.
-stop apologizing for feeling, loving, having any sorta emotions. "thanks, next please" 🤷🏻♀️
-people change. People leave. It's for a greater good.
-just cuz they're broken, don't let them break you.
-don't expect what you give. Not everyone has a heart like you.
-people aren't bad, it's their timing that's bad.
-be good, but be bad too. Being bad is much more fun. 🤶🏻 .
Lastly- forgive yourself. Don't be too hard on yourself. Love yourself. Be yourself. And to whoever doesn't let you: it's game over, bitches!
POST 7 of 8 / LESSON 5: TRUST GOD’S PLAN - “For I know the plans I have for you”
I can say without a shred of doubt that Jesus is working for the good of each of us. I know with every fibre of my being that God has a plan for me and for you. I have seen what I believed impossible, through small “random” acts and surprising guest appearances into this story, turn out possible. God is working to have us live a good life with purpose and passion and He is moulding each of His people to be better versions of ourselves and live a life as Jesus example. As a Christ follower, this knowledge gives me massive hope and allows me to know that whatever situations I endure, that I am not alone in it nor that this is with out opportunity to realize a vision that has been declared for my life. God is working for the good in me and in each of you, it’s now a choice for us of how we each accept this gift.
28319 December, 2018
POST 8 of 8 / I stand here now at the end of this year of adversity and personal growth knowing I do not have all the answers I need and having successfully retained my company, but now bearing the responsibility of its growth alone and without the friends I started the journey with. I have turned the tables some odds that where stacked against me , however done at some cost but I have a new found freedom. By no means have all the challenges in my story come to an end nor do I believe these 5 lessons are the answer to all challenges and I would be lying to myself if I believed that there are no more mountains to climb, there are lots to face and even more of myself that I need to learn about. But what this year and these 5 lessons have given to me, is simply the confidence to know that whatever comes along the paths of life I take, that I have the personal ability, the support of loved ones and a God who cares, with a new found humility and self belief, to start climbing the steps needed to take on any mountain that my story may have in store, And so do you.